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Let’s Talk About Rape and Brock Turner

Brock-Turner

This will be a really angry post because damn it, I am angry. Not even just angry, I am enraged. I am so pissed that I actually cried yesterday when I got wind of the news.

Please, if mention of rape triggers you, read the following with caution. I try not to include the really graphic parts. I have linked the rape survivor’s letter below and I would have to warn you that that one is really explicit and can be really triggering.

In case you missed it, convicted sex offender Brock Turner only got six months in county jail for raping an unconscious woman behind a dumpster. SIX MONTHS. The judge justifies that by saying that he doesn’t think Turner can last longer in jail. What the flipping burgers.

That’s not even the end of it. Turner even wrote a really ignorant and angering letter that somehow points that he was the victim of alcohol, partying, and peer pressure. And, oh yeah, his father referred to the crime as a wrong “20 minutes of action”. Good Lord. Blame the alcohol and throw a pity party for yourself. Whoop de doo.

Here’s a few snippets from Turner’s letter.

At this point in my life, I never want to have a drop of alcohol again. I never want to attend a social gathering that involves alcohol or any situation where people make decisions based on the substances they have consumed…

I want to show that people’s lives can be destroyed by drinking and making poor decisions while doing so. One needs to recognize the influence that peer pressure and the attitude of having to fit in can have on someone…

Have we still have not stopped blaming alcohol for rape? You know what causes rape? Rapists. Rapists cause rape. That’s it. No excuses.

I’m putting this tweet I saw a few hours ago: Girls, drink too much and get raped: your fault. Guys, drink too much, then rape: the alcohol’s fault.

I’ve lost two jobs solely based on the reporting of my case. I wish I never was good at swimming or had the opportunity to attend Stanford, so maybe the newspapers wouldn’t want to write stories about me…

I’ve been shattered by the party culture and risk taking behavior that I briefly experienced in my four months at school. I’ve lost my chance to swim in the Olympics. I’ve lost my ability to obtain a Stanford degree. I’ve lost employment opportunity, my reputation and most of all, my life…

Friends, what we have here is a pity party. He’s trying to get sympathy and aside from mentioning a few ‘sorry’s in his letter, it’s all about him him him. And news flash, Turner, people aren’t writing news about you because you’re a swimmer and you’re in a good university. They’re writing about you because you sexually abused someone and got off with a really light consequence. And also, aren’t judges supposed to be handling punishments and not be all “Well, you look like a nice boy who won’t harm anyone. Let’s give you six months instead of years of sentence.” I’m looking at you, Honorable Aaron Persky.

You know what I was expecting to see in the comment sections in social media when this news got out? I was expecting comments blaming the girl because she was drunk. For the first time in a long time, I didn’t see comments like that and it made me really happy. People are becoming aware. They stopped victim shaming. I see really angry comments though. About white privilege. (I actually want to really talk about white privilege as well, but that’s for another time.)

I also want to share with you guys a few snippets from the rape victim’s letter; basically it’s a summary of her letter. You can read the entire letter here. Please do. It’s important for her voice to be heard.

You don’t know me, but you’ve been inside me, and that’s why we’re here today.

One day, I was at work, scrolling through the news on my phone, and came across an article. In it, I read and learned for the first time about how I was found unconscious, with my hair disheveled, long necklace wrapped around my neck, bra pulled out of my dress, dress pulled off over my shoulders and pulled up above my waist, that I was butt naked all the way down to my boots, legs spread apart, and had been penetrated by a foreign object by someone I did not recognize. This was how I learned what happened to me, sitting at my desk reading the news at work. I learned what happened to me the same time everyone else in the world learned what happened to me.

And then, at the bottom of the article, after I learned about the graphic details of my own sexual assault, the article listed his swimming times. She was found breathing, unresponsive with her underwear six inches away from her bare stomach curled in fetal position. By the way, he’s really good at swimming. Throw in my mile time if that’s what we’re doing. I’m good at cooking, put that in there, I think the end is where you list your extracurriculars to cancel out all the sickening things that’ve happened.

When the detective asked if he had planned on taking me back to his dorm, he said no. When the detective asked how we ended up behind the dumpster, he said he didn’t know. He admitted to kissing other girls at that party, one of whom was my own sister who pushed him away. He admitted to wanting to hook up with someone. I was the wounded antelope of the herd, completely alone and vulnerable, physically unable to fend for myself, and he chose me. Sometimes I think, if I hadn’t gone, then this never would’ve happened. But then I realized, it would have happened, just to somebody else.

The night after it happened, he said he thought I liked it because I rubbed his back. A back rub.

I thought there’s no way this is going to trial; there were witnesses, there was dirt in my body, he ran but was caught. He’s going to settle, formally apologize, and we will both move on. Instead, I was told he hired a powerful attorney, expert witnesses, private investigators who were going to try and find details about my personal life to use against me, find loopholes in my story to invalidate me and my sister, in order to show that this sexual assault was in fact a misunderstanding. That he was going to go to any length to convince the world he had simply been confused.

Instead of taking time to heal, I was taking time to recall the night in excruciating detail, in order to prepare for the attorney’s questions that would be invasive, aggressive, and designed to steer me off course, to contradict myself, my sister, phrased in ways to manipulate my answers.

And then it came time for him to testify and I learned what it meant to be revictimized. I want to remind you, the night after it happened he said he never planned to take me back to his dorm. He said he didn’t know why we were behind a dumpster. He got up to leave because he wasn’t feeling well when he was suddenly chased and attacked. Then he learned I could not remember.

So one year later, as predicted, a new dialogue emerged. Brock had a strange new story, almost sounded like a poorly written young adult novel with kissing and dancing and hand holding and lovingly tumbling onto the ground, and most importantly in this new story, there was suddenly consent. One year after the incident, he remembered, oh yeah, by the way she actually said yes, to everything, so.

Future reference, if you are confused about whether a girl can consent, see if she can speak an entire sentence. You couldn’t even do that.

Next in the story, two Swedes on bicycles approached you and you ran. When they tackled you why didn’t say, “Stop! Everything’s okay, go ask her, she’s right over there, she’ll tell you.” I mean you had just asked for my consent, right? I was awake, right? When the policeman arrived and interviewed the evil Swede who tackled you, he was crying so hard he couldn’t speak because of what he’d seen.

To sit under oath and inform all of us, that yes I wanted it, yes I permitted it, and that you are the true victim attacked by Swedes for reasons unknown to you is appalling, is demented, is selfish, is damaging. It is enough to be suffering. It is another thing to have someone ruthlessly working to diminish the gravity of validity of this suffering.

You are guilty. Twelve jurors convicted you guilty of three felony counts beyond reasonable doubt, that’s twelve votes per count, thirty ­six yeses confirming guilt, that’s one hundred percent, unanimous guilt. And I thought finally it is over, finally he will own up to what he did, truly apologize, we will both move on and get better. Then I read your statement.

If you are hoping that one of my organs will implode from anger and I will die, I’m almost there. You are very close. This is not a story of another drunk college hook­up with poor decision making. Assault is not an accident. Somehow, you still don’t get it. Somehow, you still sound confused.

Then she went on to respond to Turner’s statements. Once again, you can read her entire letter here. Please do. All I have to add is if you’re not angry, you’re not aware. Be aware. Be involved. Because you know what happens to rapists if they found out they can only get six months in prison? They get braver.

Update 06/13/2016: Rapist Turner’s mother has wrote an open letter to the stupid judge – yes, that’s what I’m calling them now. In the letter, she discussed how Brock was such a happy, nice kid and she was very devastated about what happened to him. And of all the people in the world, it happened to him. Is she aware that his son is the attacker and not the victim? Rapist Turner’s mom also pleaded for a shorter sentence (is six months not short for her???) and even better, she asked that Rapist Turner not be jailed at all. All of that she did in a 3 and a half pages long of a letter, but not once has she talked about the real victim in all of these. I can’t believe that there are parents that tolerates and turns a blind eye on their son raping an unconscious girl.

PS. If you have five minutes to spare, watch this video. This is basically my reaction to the entire thing. I’m supposed to embed it into this post but it’s a Facebook video and I’m not sure how to do that yet.

Are you angry yet? Be involved.

xoxo, Richel V.

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60 Comments

  • Reply
    Hanh
    July 12, 2016 at 5:05 PM

    Reading this makes me shake with anger and rage, it’s absolutely disgusting behavior. We are all in control of our actions and this whole ordeal highlights how society still turns a blind eye on rape and victims. Thanks for sharing such a tough subject matter, I’m still shaking my head at the parents – they raised a rapist not an innocent young boy.

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      Richel V.
      July 13, 2016 at 1:18 PM

      They’re raised a really entitled, privileged boy. And I’m just as mortified of his parents like I am with the rapist.

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    Augustin Ra
    June 20, 2016 at 2:23 PM

    I feel awful for our society’s mindset that rape victims are the ones to blame. Society kept on teaching us, girls, to take care of ourselves and avoid rape when in fact, society should teach their boys not to rape. My psychology professor said that we shouldn’t blame alcohol for our misbehavior because we are aware of what we’re doing but the only sad thing is, we couldn’t control it. I feel sad and heart-broken reading this kind of posts especially when people see women as weaklings instead of looking at us equally. 🙁

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      Richel V.
      June 21, 2016 at 11:13 AM

      I am embarassed to admit it but that was my mindset yearsss ago. It’s hard to have a different mindset when everyone around you is telling you that “girls do this”, “girls do that”, “girls don’t do this”, “girls do that” and the classic “boys will be boys”. This is why rape culture and victim blaming still exists. It takes getting out of that place and opening my eyes on what’s happening to the world to say, “Hold up. That isn’t right.” And I guess the thing we all need to do to destroy that culture is to speak up. No matter how horrible (and stupid, tbh) people will tell you when you do “feminazi” things. I think we owe it to the girls who have experienced far voice to lend them our voices.

      And tbh, if alcohol will lead men to rape. Then we’ll have a hella lot of rapists. Hell, half of my friends would be rapists. That argument is so invalid.

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    Pallavi (@wildfirecharm)
    June 16, 2016 at 8:01 PM

    This is so incredibly sad! Our world is turning into this devastating place day by day and it makes me so sad to think about all the innocent people who have been victims while their attackers walk around free or very less jail time. I really hope this letter makes some sort of change.

    http://www.wildfirecharm.com

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      Richel V.
      June 17, 2016 at 10:05 AM

      I also heard about this news when a black guy was sentenced to yearssss of prison for a rape he didn’t commit. Then we have Rapist Brock Turner who’ll be able to get out in three. World’s alreadys shitty, but all these laws and judges help make it shittier. It’s maddening.

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    Mitzie Mee
    June 16, 2016 at 4:29 AM

    When I first heard about that story it also made me very angry, but I’m happy to see how many people reacted and had enough. 6 months for the attack is such a joke:/

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      Richel V.
      June 16, 2016 at 11:45 AM

      In regards to the events of the past weeks, America’s looking like a big joke. They should reevaluate who becomes a judge because just giving months for a crime like this? It’s just stupid.

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    Corinne
    June 16, 2016 at 4:23 AM

    I find it so hard to believe this whole thing is real. I know parents love their children, but surely they should realise he needs a punishment for what he did. There’s just no excuse. That poor girl, this has been so publicised too, she must be going through hell and constant reminders of it.

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      Richel V.
      June 16, 2016 at 12:09 PM

      I’m just glad she’s allowed to be anonymous! She doesn’t need to be haunted by the media because of this. Think of the lengths the rapist’s family must have went through to paint their son as the victim!!

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    Aly
    June 15, 2016 at 9:51 PM

    Damn it. What a psychopath/sociopath he is. I want to find hope for humanity, but I just can’t anymore.

    • Reply
      Richel V.
      June 16, 2016 at 12:04 PM

      Kind of hard to find hope for all of us because of the news these past few weeks, tbh. 🙁

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    Da Dominguez
    June 15, 2016 at 4:06 PM

    This is totally enraging! People nowadays should really be aware about this revictimizing. It’s such a shame that some people still tolerate this. 🙁 Rape is rape. No one should be able to get away from it that easily. Sobrang nakakagalit at nakakalungkot ‘yung mga balita lately. :—–(

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      Richel V.
      June 16, 2016 at 12:08 PM

      Revictimizing and white privilege. Sighsss. 🙁

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    Hazel
    June 15, 2016 at 12:06 PM

    No matter how enraged we are, the law will always be favorable to the accused. It hurts to know that the victims are always forgotten and neglected 🙁

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      Richel V.
      June 15, 2016 at 12:51 PM

      It’s funny how America are the “land of the free” but they’re really not. Also funny how there are many DEMOCRATIC countries who won’t listen to the pleas of its people. It’s actually not funny, more like stupid, but you get my point.

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    Angel
    June 14, 2016 at 9:43 PM

    this makes me so bad that until now rape culture still exists and that the law is still useless to prevent and punish rapists. It’s not fair that each one of us will always have that fear and danger lurking in the back of our head everytime we are vulnerable and intoxicated. Reading the whole account of it online makes me so mad and the fact that he got away with it just proves that white priviledge/money trumps justice :s

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      Richel V.
      June 15, 2016 at 12:55 PM

      I’m actually pro-death penalty for rapists – especially those who rape then brutally kill their victioms, those who rape children, and those who rape their OWN flesh and blood. And I probably won’t change my stance on that. Really not fair that we (especially girls) always watch our backs for predators and they can get away with it with not a scratch. It’s so UGH. I have no words.

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    The Bambi Eyes
    June 14, 2016 at 8:05 AM

    This is a very powerful post and I love how you brought it up since it’s something not a lot of people talk about on blogs when it should be something to be more aware of. Rape has always been an issue but I’m glad when victims take a stand and speak up.

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      Richel V.
      June 14, 2016 at 3:22 PM

      I personally think it’s something more people should talk about. How will we be able to lessen or completely get rid of crimes like this or at least deliver sentences if we won’t at least talk about it? The rape survivor released another letter about why she choose to be anonymous. It goes something like she’s representing all those who are afraid to speak up. I love it.

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    Danielle Beautyblog
    June 14, 2016 at 5:42 AM

    This was such a powerful piece, thank you for linking the full letter, I had heard the story but hadn’t got a chance to read the full letter. The law is ridiculous

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      Richel V.
      June 14, 2016 at 3:23 PM

      Anything to help circulate her voice. We need to keep talking about this.

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    shireenplatt
    June 14, 2016 at 12:52 AM

    I am appalled by the sentencing, it’s a fucking disgrace! And his parents should be ashamed of themselves, no wonder their son thought he could do everything and anything and is able to get away with it because look at his parents reactions! Shame, shame and more shame to them and I hope they will become a pariah for the rest of their lives. And that judge, karma is a bitch, God help him if one day something similar happens to one of his family members.

    Bless the woman and I hope she finds the strength to move on from this, she has our support. My heart aches and weeps for her.

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

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      Richel V.
      June 15, 2016 at 1:56 PM

      I wouldn’t wish it upon the judge’s family but if it happens to /him/ and his attacker was caught with two eye witnesses and was only sentenced to six months, with a high probability of getting out in only three… Well, he won’t get symphathy from me. That’s for sure.

      She sounded so strong in her letters and I hope she heals truly from this. She deserves that so much and more.

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    Carina
    June 13, 2016 at 8:05 PM

    This case has left me speechless, not to mention angry. I can’t believe he’s only getting 6 months, the judges are blind or closing an eye while offering favours to a rapist. Alcohol isn’t at fault, there are a lot of drunks all over the world and they don’t go around raping unconscious women! That’s such a stupid immature excuse. And since when are judges thinking if rapist can survive prison?! I mean wtf?! What’s stopping him to do it again if he knows he’ll get away with it easily?

    Also I find it stupid for people to consider this taboo. It’s happening and people should take action. Yes, it’s uncomfortable, but more than that it’s infuriating and unfair! It’s unacceptable to ignore this, just because it’s not a light fluffy discussion topic.

    xo
    http://www.carinavardie.com

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      Richel V.
      June 15, 2016 at 2:13 PM

      He’s actually set to get out in three months for good behavior. Wtf, right? I can’t believe the judge is, well, a judge. I would have given years of sentence to this rapist. I actually want all rapists to receive a life in prison or even the death penalty.

      It’s stupid that this is taboo, tbh. If we can’t even talk about it, how are we supposed to take actions against it?

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    Sally Akins (@SallyAkins)
    June 13, 2016 at 6:40 PM

    I’m so angry about this situation, and the more I read about it, the angrier I get. How can things like this still be happening in 2016???

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      Richel V.
      June 14, 2016 at 3:53 PM

      It’s 2016 and we still have idiots turning a blind eye on this EVEN IF WE HAVE TWO EYE WITNESSES.

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    Elle
    June 13, 2016 at 3:16 PM

    I’m not sure I’ve ever been more angry in my life. As if the poor victim hasn’t been through hell and back already, and then she has to watch her vile, twisted, sick rapist lie in front of everyone and plead for pity. I’m so pleased you shared this because it’s really easy to see this, be disgusted and not stand up and say anything!

    Elle
    http://www.theellenextdoor.com
    xx

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      Richel V.
      June 13, 2016 at 5:01 PM

      Issues like this always makes my blood boil to the fact that it made me tear up with how angry I am. It’s 2016 and we still let go of a convicted Rapist like Brock Turner go with a light sentence. WHY? I’m not sure we can do anything to change the sentence but we can make a noise. Oh, yes, we can make a bunch of noise about the injustice of this trial and the complete lack of respect and justice that the rape victim experienced. Never silent anymore. And maybe, just maybe, all those people we have elected into position will finally get off their ass, listen, and change things around rape culture and white privilege.

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      Richel V.
      June 27, 2016 at 10:03 AM

      I’m sorry, but I don’t know what you mean. 🙁

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    Amy
    June 13, 2016 at 12:30 AM

    I think it’s so important that you’ve written about this. I’ve read all about it and it’s completely disgraceful and disgusting that he’s only got six months. There is no excuse for rape AT ALL.
    Amy xx

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      Richel V.
      June 13, 2016 at 10:19 AM

      Just read from his record that he’s set to get out by Sept. 2 – that’s only three months! I have no words on how this angers me.

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    Jackie Harrison
    June 12, 2016 at 9:40 PM

    Great post to bring to light how a victim still has to feel the pain all over again.

    • Reply
      Richel V.
      June 13, 2016 at 10:24 AM

      Sadly, all most people can do is to spread awareness and information about cases like this. I like using whatever voice I have to help.

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    Emily
    June 12, 2016 at 8:50 PM

    I am so glad we are all talking about this horrific event, it is something that needs to be repeated over and over again, this is NOT okay. I’m appalled and deeply disturbed. It makes me skin crawl that people like Brock Turner exist and more to the point, that he is only getting six months. What a terrifying world we live in.

    Musings & More

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      Richel V.
      June 13, 2016 at 4:55 PM

      It makes my blood boil that people like Rapist Brock Turner exist and instead of being remorseful of the crime he commited, he decided to blame alcohol and is trying way too hard to play the victim card. It disgusts me to the very core that Rapist Brock Turner’s dad is calling rape a ’20 minutes of action’ and Rapist Brock Turner’s mom wrote a lengthy letter about how Rapist Brock Turner’s life will never be the same but not once did she say she feels sorry to the victim in behalf of Rapist Brock Turner. It made me question everything when a judge who was supposed to be smart decided to favor Rapist Brock Turner and to only give a sentence of six months – knowing that Rapist Brock Turner can get out in three months. It pains my heart to just imagine what the victim is feeling right now and how this will discourage all the women and men who are victims of rape to speak out if this is the only ‘justice’ they will get.

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    Mimi
    June 12, 2016 at 10:48 AM

    This was a pretty long read, and I like it. I won’t say too much because I’ve already ranted A LOT about this topic to my friends. I’m exhausted when things like this happened. Why is fucking Brock Turner playing the victim here?! Is he mad?! Something similar also happened to my friend’s lover lately, and I was fumed with anger. I’m trying to find the strength and “anger” to stand up for the girl against the guys who did this kind of atrocity to here at the moment, while also consoling our friend whose lover apparently became a victim of this. This world is mad. :'(

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      Richel V.
      June 13, 2016 at 5:27 PM

      I am so so sorry to hear about that, Mimi. No one deserves to be treated like that. Did she pressed charges? 🙁 I can’t even try to imagine what would drive a person to force someone against their will. Regarding this case, Rapist Brock Turner’s mom just released a really lengthly letter about how his son’s life was changed but never once apologized to the real victim of the crime. I can’t imagine people tolerating sick crimes like this. And I am so, so tired of hearing about stories like this every month and being able to do nothing but to spread awareness and speak up about it. It literally pains me to be able to do nothing to stop it and I just keep hoping for a better world. But things are not looking good at the world right now. 🙁

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    sileas
    June 11, 2016 at 3:36 PM

    Sad. Her letter is disturbing, awakening and brave. Thanks for sharing, her voice needs to be heard!

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      Richel V.
      June 13, 2016 at 4:25 PM

      I’m willing to make as much noise as I can so her voice can be heard. It makes a lot of difference once people become more aware about serious issues like this! Thanks for reading this.

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    Kandice
    June 11, 2016 at 10:55 AM

    I read an article that he had no signs of alcohol intake at all.. well anyways, the judgment was unfair. They were worried how Brock can’t last long in jail, turned himself into a victim of alcohol. While the woman is depressed about what happened to her, and the real victim of assault. I have few guy friends who get really drunk at parties or night outs, but they never raped a woman. He shouldn’t blame the alcohol, he should blame his left consciousness for letting his whole body rape an unconscious woman.

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      Richel V.
      June 13, 2016 at 4:39 PM

      The thing is Rapist Brock Turner (as I have now taken to calling him) is most likely to get out of jail after only THREE months. I just want to fly into the States and shake that stupid judge for the sentence he gave. Maybe even throw in a slap or two for both him and Rapist Brock Turner; it’s so maddening that he came to that sentence.

      Alcohol is never to blame. I also have a girl friend who gets drunk with our male college mates alone all the time and those guys really know how to drink a lot. They never raped her or any other girls they’re out drinking with. It’s just a flawed logic because if alcohol MADE him a rapists, then shouldn’t all alcoholics be a rapist? SMH at that stupid logic.

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        Kandice
        June 13, 2016 at 10:27 PM

        I can’t do anything with the sentence of Turner, but all I can do is hope that this will be solved by the higher government in USA. For other countries, if this case happens, I wish the sentence will be fair for the victim and the criminal.

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          Richel V.
          June 14, 2016 at 1:47 PM

          Sadly, I don’t think other countries are better than the USA regarding to rape charges. Most rape stories we’ve heard are from the US and we know other countries have it much worse. Makes you think of just how many people are not speaking up against their rapists in fear.

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    Nicole
    June 11, 2016 at 5:47 AM

    I’m just as angry about this as you are. It’s ridiculous..

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      Richel V.
      June 13, 2016 at 11:11 AM

      If you’re not angry, you’re not informed. It was a stupid case. I can’t believe that guy was actually a judge. Smh.

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    Elizabeth Rose Hisle
    June 11, 2016 at 1:39 AM

    THANK YOU FOR WRITING ABOUT THIS. Seriously, I am livid anyone can get away with a mere jail sentence. As women, we need to raise all hell.

    http://aroseisinbloom.blogspot.com/

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      Richel V.
      June 13, 2016 at 10:34 AM

      Did you know that his already short sentence was rumored to be cut shorter? I am livid. We need to talk about this and everyone has to be involved. It needs to be spread.

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    rae tashman (@lovefromberlin)
    June 10, 2016 at 9:20 PM

    Thank you so much for blogging about such an important issue. Reading the snippet of the victim’s letter here was heart-wrenching. This guy is a complete joke as is his family and all the people who have tried to defend him. I love how he throws himself a pity party while then still sneakily trying to inflate his own ego by mentioning his incredible swimming abilities and the fact that he got into Stanford. What an absolute piece of trash. And his father explaining away his behavior as 20 minutes of wrong action? No wonder this boy has such a warped sense of his crime. Also, the judge worrying about him “not lasting” in prison? He brutally raped a woman. No one was there to care about her wellbeing in that situation. I am not saying that I think something equally as bad should happen to him, but clearly this boy was not looking out for the wellbeing of the victim he attacked that night, so I don’t know why a judge is more concerned with this boy’s ability or inability to survive in prison over what he did to this innocent woman.

    It also pains me to read in her letter that his attorney was looking to dig into her history to pull out any ugly little detail of her life to try to insult her character in a way that would make it look as if she somehow “deserved” what she got more than a victim who was “blameless”. Newslash ALL VICTIMS ARE BLAMELESS. It does not matter how many men she slept with before, what she drank, what she did up to that point. No consent, no sex. HOW HARD IS IT PEOPLE?!

    On the bright side, as you said, at least this time around, people seem to be siding with the victim rather than the perpetrator which leads me to believe we are maybe finally getting somewhere in this whole discussion of rape-culture and victim blaming.

    Rae Love from Berlin

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      Richel V.
      June 13, 2016 at 6:13 PM

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this issue, Rae. I just have to add that the victim’s mother just released an open letter to the judge asking to not send Rapist Brock Turner to jail because he won’t be able to handle it; regardless of the fact that Rapist Brock Turner would be kept away from notorious criminals, will have someone with him, and will most probably get out of jail after mere THREE months. In Rapish Brock Turner’s mother’s lenghtly letter, she went on to discuss just how nice and happy Rapist Brock Turner was and how he will never be the same. GOOD. He has to suffer the consequences of his actions- and no, blaming alcohol will not gain my symphaty. Going back to the letter, she never once mentioned the real victim of the crime and went on to lenghts to paint her rapist son as the victim. Makes you wonder if stupidity is on genetics, eh? Both parents turning a blind eye on the real victim of this sick, disgusted crime.

      This case made a lot of people angry and it should be. We might not be able to change the stupid sentence Rapist Brock Turner received but we can talk about it. We can make an uproar about its injustice. We will not be silent about this one and we will keep working on destroying victim blaming, the rape culture, and white privilege.

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    Nerdy Maria
    June 10, 2016 at 8:31 PM

    This is not only unacceptable, this is all types of disgusting. I cannot believe that he only got 6 months and that he got away with his very poor excuses. I am so sorry for that girl and her letter is the most powerful thing I have read in ages! I still cannot believe the injustice of this situation and how judge could of have done something like this. That man deserves jail for many years.

    -Leta | The Nerdy Me

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      Richel V.
      June 13, 2016 at 10:41 AM

      Oh, Leta, I have just read that he is set to get out on September 2 – just a mere three months. It already ruined my week. Add that to the Orlando shootings this week, which is another sad and long story that needs to be talked about. I hate how white privilege let him only take months for a crime that will hunt the girl for years to come. I cannot believe any sane judge would have a very poor excuse on giving a rapist a very short sentence. I cannot believe Rapist Brock Turner shows how sorry he is that alcohol ruined his life but can’t acknowledge the fact that he ruined hers. This is simply unacceptable and we should all raise all kinds of hell for this.

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    Georgie
    June 10, 2016 at 6:52 PM

    Oh my goodness. I am SO angry now! I’m glad to see that people are becoming more aware of the real victims of rape (hint: it’s never the rapist) but the fact that they are still pretty much getting away with it is sickening.

    Georgie xo

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      Richel V.
      June 13, 2016 at 5:18 PM

      I can see how people are being more aware in social media compared to years ago and that’s a bloody good thing. But the fact that the judges are the ones turning a blind eyes makes you just want to scream ‘WTF’ into the heavens above. It’s absolutely disgusting.

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    Rea
    June 10, 2016 at 5:49 PM

    Sometimes I ask why these such things happen. Things like this make me scared of the world but then again, only in truth can we set ourselves free. It’s disgusting how people get away from these kinds of crime. I echo all your sentiments here. I truly hope for a better world.

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      Richel V.
      June 13, 2016 at 5:16 PM

      Things like this makes me want to book the nearest self-defense class. In fact, I am planning to take up boxing and kick-boxing in the next few months. This world is scary. And what happens after the crime is just plain disgusting. It’s bad enough that you’ll be a victim. But to have witnesses on your side and still lose the battle? That’s just the worst.

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    Danica Rama
    June 10, 2016 at 2:28 PM

    Omg Richel! I was thinking of writing about this too after reading the victim’s letter, but didn’t because I’m not sure if I can handle it well. But yes, after reading her letter I have the same emotion. Seriously, there reason of giving him six months in jail after he’s been proven guilty for three times (correct me if I’m wrong) is a total BULLSHIT! And let’s not forget about the fact that he’s saying he asked for her consent that’s why he was inside her! Like seriously, she was unconscious! This topic is just urgggg

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      Richel V.
      June 13, 2016 at 10:58 AM

      It’s really hard to talk about this and it’s harder because this topic has been considered as sort of taboo because it’s uncomfortable to discuss. But I’ve always used whatever voice I have to shine about topics like this. It’s supposed to be uncomfortable. It’s supposed to make people squirm and feel small. People have always looked at things to justify crimes like this (blaming it on alcohol, clothes the victim wore, etc.) but rape is never because of that. And we need to raise all kinds of hell until we squish this victim blaming and rape culture down to the ground. We need to raise hell because this case, there were TWO eye witnesses who saw Rapist Brock Turner in the act – one of which was bawling his eyes out as he tried to tell the officer what happened. We need to raise hell because rape often happens with no witnesses. And if cases that already has not one but two eye witnesses only have a sentence of months, then why would other rape victims come forward and retell their stories painfully each time for years to know that her attacker will only get months while she’ll be labeled and judged as a ‘victim’ all her lives? This was supposed to be an easy case. We have witnesses, he’s been judged as guilty. He should have been jailed for life and be offering lifetime of apologies to the rape survivor, but it didn’t happen and I am so, so mad. We should all be enraged.

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