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A Letter from my Future Self

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Dear 20 years old me,

The date today is April 21, 2023. Exactly seven years from where you are now – looks like we still have a thing with seven. We’re still in our 20s so no need to fuss about being that old. You’d love where I am right now, but I’ll tell you all about it later.

Where to begin? I guess I’ll start by saying that you have a long and rough road ahead of you. I remember how we were in our early 20s, full of doubt, yet excited and scared for the next steps. I know this would sound cliché, but, it does get better day after day. You’ll find your feet soon enough and no matter how scared you’re feeling, you’re still going to jump head first into everything because that’s the kind of person you are. Life will throw you curveballs, a lot of them, and there would be many, many times where you’ll want to give up just settle with what you have. But, love, every little hardship will be worth it in the end.

I know I’m sounding very vague right now, but I don’t want this letter to affect your future decisions too much. I will be saying some few reminders for you, love. I’m sure you already thought these ones up but it wouldn’t hurt to hear it from me – your future you, eh?

Be nicer to yourself. Stop looking at the mirror and seeing all the imperfections. Stop replaying your mistakes in your head a hundred times. Stop comparing yourself to others. Listen to John O. What-ifs and should-haves will eat your brain. Focus on where you are right now and embrace it. This is who you are and you are going to love it whole-heartedly.

Take care of yourself. Now, just because I said to embrace who you are does not mean you get to pass out on exercising and taking healthy meals. You need to take care of yourself. I have it on good authority that you’ll end up loving joining marathons. Take your running shoes out and go for a jog.

Impress no one but yourself. While it would be cool to impress everyone else, your priority should be you. Do things that’ll make you proud and happy of who you are becoming. Having a new car might impress your family and friends but we both know how scared and unmotivated you are on driving. Face your own fears and finally dive out of a plane. You’ll impress and be proud of yourself for finally checking a thing off your bucket list that’s been there since you created one.

Say ‘I love you’ more often. The words you will regret more are the ones that you never actually said. Tell the ones you love them that you do. Words are sometimes louder than action, love. You should know that better than anyone.

Let people in. Which is a nicer way of saying ‘stop being a snob’ and ‘actually be a bit friendly’. You will never be a social butterfly but it would be nice to know someone from another place, culture, age range. Make connections. Make lots of them. You’ll never know if a stranger would end up to be a very close friend.

Have fun expanding your career. Learning is fun! Stop focusing on the title and money – though, who would say no to a promotion, right? The ugly truth is that no matter how good a person is, some promotions can only be attained by the number of years you have put in the company. Make your time count. Take lots of training and certification. Enjoy each steps. Be passionate about your career.

Be spontaneous. Take road trips. Go on an unplanned hike. Take an out-of-the-country alone and with no itinerary. It’s actually fun to be spontaneous once in a while. It can be as simple as taking your brothers to Sandbox for a weekend. Sometimes, love, the best memories are those that are not planned.

Spend a lot of time with family. Family will be one of the constants in your life. Don’t take them for granted. You know how easy it is for someone to just be… gone. Spend a lot of time with them. As much as you can. You don’t even have to do anything fancy. Just chatting with them over meals is good enough.

I have to stop this now. They’re calling for our flight now and I guess I have to throw you a bone on where I am somehow. We’re finally going to Europe! Took us long enough, but this is the only year your boyfriend was allowed to be on leave for a month. Oops. Cat’s out of the bag now! Enough stressing about ending up alone and tell your best friends they don’t have to worry about that, as well. They can be more of a worrywart about that than you. I’m rolling my eyes because of that, by the way. See you in seven years!!

Love, you but a bit older.

What would your future self tell you?

xoxo, Richel V.

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    busyandfab
    June 30, 2016 at 9:22 AM

    This is quite an interesting post. I like how you use foreshadowing with a heart and humour together. Love the way you write too. I should come here more often.
    http://www.busyandfab.com

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      Richel V.
      July 1, 2016 at 11:10 AM

      I’m glad you liked it! I was mildly surprised at myself when I finished the letter. 🙂

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    bollianaxo
    June 29, 2016 at 10:10 PM

    Girl this is very inspiring <3

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      Richel V.
      June 30, 2016 at 9:45 AM

      Thank you! 🙂

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    Mimi
    June 29, 2016 at 7:24 PM

    These are some really helpful notes to remember and I’m glad I was able to read it. And gaah I’m turning 20 next year!!! I don’t think I feel just “a bit” old, huhu. But no matter, I’ll do my best to enjoy life as it goes! 🙂 Same to you as well!

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      Richel V.
      July 1, 2016 at 11:12 AM

      I think I’ll start feeling old when I reach 23-25. It helps that I’m the youngest one in our office. Haha! I’m glad you liked it, Mimi. 🙂

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    Kandice
    June 29, 2016 at 3:12 PM

    honestly, this is such an inspiring letter. Those are the things I wish I knew back then. But it’s not too late for the both of us.

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      Richel V.
      June 29, 2016 at 3:23 PM

      Never too late to learn! I know I should do these things, but I’m still struggling, tbvh.

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    Joyce Pak (@thejpak)
    June 29, 2016 at 12:00 AM

    I love that part of you being less hard on yourself and impressing no one but yourself! Great tips to look into for my 20’s too!

    Characters & Carry-ons

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      Richel V.
      June 29, 2016 at 1:30 PM

      Glad you liked it, Joyce! 🙂

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    SparklesofLight Blog (@rosysparkles)
    June 28, 2016 at 5:53 PM

    I loved this post, I have no idea what I’d tell myself personally although it is something I think about a lot.

    Rosy | Sparkles of Light Blog

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      Richel V.
      June 29, 2016 at 1:30 PM

      It really puts things in perspective if you have it written down. Or at least, the idea of it.:)

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    Sheena Sy Gonzales
    June 28, 2016 at 8:49 AM

    Nice article Richel!

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      Richel V.
      June 28, 2016 at 11:01 AM

      Thank you, Sheena! 🙂

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    Elizabeth Angelia
    June 7, 2016 at 7:30 PM

    So nice!! I loved this so much, Richel!

    http://www.elizabethangelia.blogspot.com

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      Richel V.
      June 7, 2016 at 8:08 PM

      Glad you liked it, Elizabeth! 🙂

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    Tricia Willa
    May 23, 2016 at 10:40 AM

    Beautiful blog entry, Rich! As I am really hard towards myself lately this post is quite helpful.
    I should always remind myself that things would eventually get better and that I’m not really failing in life.

    – Tricia Willa ( I don’t know if you still remember me )

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      Richel V.
      May 24, 2016 at 9:59 AM

      Hi Tricia! Of course I still remember you. 🙂 I’m glad you liked this post. I have to reread it every once in a while to keep myself grounded.

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    Kirsty
    May 18, 2016 at 6:25 PM

    I love this, such a great way to remind yourself where you’ve come from and how not to lose yourself!

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      Richel V.
      May 19, 2016 at 11:23 AM

      I’m glad you like it, Kirsty! 😀

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    Danica
    May 18, 2016 at 3:17 AM

    I wonder what my future self would tell me because of this post. She’d probably tell me to stop being negative and to stop making decisions based on my assumptions on what other people would say/think. This is well written and very inspiring, thank you so much for sharing 🙂

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      Richel V.
      May 18, 2016 at 10:52 AM

      I forgot to add that to my letter! I’m already on my way on being a… optimist though although I need to work more on not caring what other people thinkg haha. I’m glad you liked it, Dani! Thanks for dropping by on my blog, too! 🙂

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        Danica Rama
        May 19, 2016 at 12:51 AM

        It’s so hard to just shut off people’s criticism, but yas we can work on that and live a happier life haha. And you’re welcome! I’ve been wanting to leave a comment since I stumbled upon your blog, but I don’t want to look creepy leaving comments without an identity profile to link my name to 😛

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          Richel V.
          May 19, 2016 at 11:22 AM

          I’m still working on having a thick skin, lol. Nah, that’s not creepy at all! Hope you can stop by again! 😀

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    Mitzie Mee
    May 7, 2016 at 8:02 PM

    Such a nice post. Most of the letter-to-self blog posts I’ve read has been retrospective, so I really like that your post is looking forward, to the years to come. I’m sure it will not be 7 years before you get to go to Europe. Which countries do you wish to visit?

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      Richel V.
      May 15, 2016 at 4:43 PM

      Figured I’d try to look at this from a different view and I liked this result! Off the top of my head, I want to visit: Italy, France, London, Amsterdam, and Greece!

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    Lei
    April 28, 2016 at 8:13 PM

    I loooove reading this kind of posts. It inspires me so much and makes me more excited about future. Whenever I write my own, my heart always swells that’s why I cannot finish one (i hope i can hihi). What you’ve listed above are almost the same things I always tell myself too. :)))

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      Richel V.
      April 29, 2016 at 10:49 AM

      I keep this balanced between personal and vague or else I won’t be able to post it! Haha. I feel you. I already started writing open letters to the people I care about and letters to my past self, but I can’t finish it since I’m feeling too emotional in between! Hahaha!

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    Tricia
    April 27, 2016 at 8:18 PM

    Aw this is nice. 🙂 I’m sure would be really nice to read in the future too!

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      Richel V.
      April 28, 2016 at 11:24 AM

      Thank you, Tricia! I think so too! 🙂

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    Jonine G.
    April 27, 2016 at 6:24 AM

    oh, thanks for sharing this, Richel! I miss reading your thoughts and getting updates from you! 🙁 🙂

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      Richel V.
      April 27, 2016 at 10:06 AM

      You’re welcome, Jonine! I was out on a trip and now adjusting back to work, that’s why I have few entries this past weeks. Hehe.

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    Jeini Relova
    April 26, 2016 at 11:27 PM

    This is nice Rich. I love how you wrote and reminded yourself in the future to take care and love yourself more. It takes a few people to actually learn to accept and love their selves more. This is a nice way to always remind our self in case we forgot how to. Thanks Rich. :3

    Spices + Everything Nice | http://www.ajeinomoto.com

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      Richel V.
      April 27, 2016 at 10:09 AM

      Knowing it and actually doing it are so hard though. I’ve always known these things but it’s so difficult to apply to real life sometimes. I wonder why. Glad you liked it, Jeini!

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    Jhanz
    April 26, 2016 at 9:44 PM

    Belated happy birthday, Richel! And yes to self love and appreciating the now. 🙂 Really love reading more personal posts! Which reminds me, I should write something like this soon. Hehe!

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      Richel V.
      April 27, 2016 at 10:08 AM

      It’s not my birthday? Hehe. Please write a personal post soon! Would love to read it! <3

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    Jannette
    April 26, 2016 at 9:05 PM

    Beautiful entry. I would tell myself to say “I love you” more too, also to forgive yourself and get up when you fall and keep moving forward. 🙂

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      Richel V.
      April 27, 2016 at 10:26 AM

      Thank you, Jannette, and thanks for sharing, as well! 🙂

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    Jhecel
    April 26, 2016 at 5:32 AM

    This is something I keep telling myself. The only consolation I have is that we are allowed to commit mistake. At least twice? Then we can redeem ourselves whenever we are ready.

    Have fun in Europe!

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      Richel V.
      April 26, 2016 at 10:34 AM

      Or at least once? The saying “fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me.” kind of stucked with me. Hehe.

      I hope I’ll be in Europe in 7 years with or without a bf! HAHAHA! *crosses fingers*

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    Mira
    April 25, 2016 at 8:28 PM

    This is amazing idea and a beautiful letter, your advice is perfect. As my future self I’d also tell my younger self to take better care of her mental and physical health, to stop comparing herself to other and mainly to stop worrying so much. I would tell her to follow her dreams and that life will get easier. xx

    113-things-to-say.blogspot.com

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      Richel V.
      April 26, 2016 at 10:35 AM

      Thank you. I’m glad people liked this open letter I made. I didn’t think much of it when I shared it on my blog. It’s so easy to think of what our future selves will tell us, but it’s still so hard to follow through, don’t you think? 🙂

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    DownTownSofie
    April 25, 2016 at 5:36 AM

    Impress no one but yourself. It’s so valuable that you know that! Once you start living by that goal you feel so much more confident. Loved the style of this post 🙂

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      Richel V.
      April 26, 2016 at 10:33 AM

      Thank you, Sophie! I’m so over impressing other people. But I still have to remind myself that. 🙂

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    Dianne
    April 24, 2016 at 1:33 AM

    It’s cool that I actually thought of creating a blog post about an open letter for my future self. And this post is the counter-part of it. I enjoyed reading this post, Richel. I can relate in so many levels, and I hate you for making me emotional right now! haha! The feels! I hope I can also say “i love you” more often. The “let people in” part is what I wanted to do too. I am more of an introvert than extrovert. Or maybe I’m the most introvert among the extroverts, like that. I tend to be really shy and awkward in social situations. This is the very reason why I have a very small circle of friends.

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      Richel V.
      April 26, 2016 at 10:32 AM

      I write letters to my future self once a year via futureorg.me; I think that was the site’s name. Hehe. Figured it’d be fun to change it up this time and it was! Glad you can relate to it, Dianne! I’m more of an introvert myself so I keep telling myself to step out of my comfort zone every single day. Haha!

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    Kandice
    April 24, 2016 at 1:17 AM

    beautiful letter <3 I have no comment at all, just wanna let you know that somehow I find this beautiful. I wanna write the same post 🙂 the let people in affected me the most

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      Richel V.
      April 26, 2016 at 10:30 AM

      Thank you, Dice!! <3

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    Lou
    April 23, 2016 at 2:38 PM

    This letter sums up everything about the things that my future self would probably blab about. I like how this letter tells how true you are to your self 🙂 And exactly, every hardships will be worth in the end.

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      Richel V.
      April 26, 2016 at 10:30 AM

      Glad you liked it, Lou!

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    Melai
    April 22, 2016 at 11:28 PM

    Beautifully written! It’s good that you have something like this that you can read back to when you’re going through “life”! That 7 years will probably not be easy but you’ll love yourself more after that! 🙂

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      Richel V.
      April 26, 2016 at 10:29 AM

      Thanks, Melai! This would probably will be something I keep reading back on, as you said. 🙂 And nothing worth having comes easy, so bring it on, life!

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    Mailan
    April 22, 2016 at 8:10 PM

    I agree with these. Almost the same words I told myself / learned last year. To better years to come! 🙂

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      Richel V.
      April 26, 2016 at 10:21 AM

      Agreed. To better years to come! 😀

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    Darriyan Lawley
    April 22, 2016 at 1:14 AM

    I want to do a post like this. I think it helps keep things in perspective. Lovely post,

    Darriyan xx | http://www.darriyancateland.blogspot.com

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      Richel V.
      April 26, 2016 at 10:09 AM

      Feel free to make one. I’d love to read it. xx

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    Nerdy Maria
    April 21, 2016 at 8:49 PM

    Such an incredible idea. I love all the things your future self would tell you and quite frankly I feel like mine would also say the same. She would also say to not overthink so much, enjoy the life and embrace yourself 🙂

    -Leta | The Nerdy Me

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      Richel V.
      April 26, 2016 at 10:03 AM

      Thanks for sharing what you think your future self would say! We should start listening to what our ‘future selves’ are saying, eh? Hahaha!

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    Stephanie
    April 21, 2016 at 12:48 PM

    Love reading these posts! <3

    Stephanie | http://www.stephykeung.com

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      Richel V.
      April 26, 2016 at 10:01 AM

      Glad you liked it, Steph! 🙂

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    Mei
    April 21, 2016 at 12:35 PM

    I so love personal posts like this one! 🙂

    This was well-written, I like the ending too! Sounded like a goal and a reality at the same time. Hehe I have this kind of post too on my drafts, hoping to publish it for my birthday post hehe

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      Richel V.
      April 26, 2016 at 10:02 AM

      I liked reading posts like this, too. Figured I should share one of my own!

      That was my intent. Hehe. Looking forward to reading yours when you publish it! Is it different from the one you posted yesterday?

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